3 Demure comebacks to use with mean girls.

3 Demure comebacks to use with mean girls.

The demure, cutesy, and mindful approach is an effective one to use with mean girls. It’s disarming while subtly asserting your confidence while maintaining composure and deflecting negativity. Here are 3 examples to use with mean girls that are demure,, mindful, cutesy, classy, yet assertive:

-That’s one way to look at it.

This response acknowledges without validating. It’s a neutral, non-reactive deflection that holds space for someone else’s perspective without agreement or engagement. It also shuts down further attacks by not offering anything to push against.

-Everyone has different opinions, that’s okay.

This response acknowledges the difference in opinions without directly confronting the insult or negativity and prevents escalating the situation. It also emphasizes that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, suggesting that their opinion is just one of many while you maintain composure and remain calm. This can be especially powerful when dealing with someone who tries to provoke emotional reactions.

-I try not to take things personally these days.

This response subtly disarms the mean comment without engaging in defense. It shows growth, emotional regulation, and boundary awareness. You stay calm and centered, while also making it clear the comment didn’t land.

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Xo,
Dr. C