Assertive YOU:

Know what to say & what to do next. For the moments when something feels off but you don’t know whether to address it, let it go, set a boundary, or change how you respond at work, school, home, and in your friendships.

Inside Assertive YOU, you can search 500+ psychologist crafted scripts, access step by step guides, read my responses to real life situations, or anonymously submit your own question by Johns Hopkins trained clinical psychologist, Dr. Christie Ferrari. You don’t need more generic advice, you need to know how to handle your actual situation.

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In just 5 minutes, find clearer words without escalating, a smarter next step, and become more assertive and confident

Here’s what you’ll have access to:

• 500+ Psychologist crafted scripts

  • Search by topic or situation to find language for friendships, exclusion, boundaries, family dynamics, parenting, work and difficult conversations.

  • No more freezing in the moment or spending hours rewriting the same message.

• Anonymous “Dear Dr. C” support

  • Submit your situation anonymously and browse my responses to questions from other members experiencing similar things. Sometimes the answer isn’t simply what to say. It’s understanding what may be happening, what response will actually help, and what could make the situation worse.

• Step by step guides

  • Go beyond one script with practical guides designed to help you make friends, navigate mean girl behavior, support your child socially, become more assertive and stop second guessing yourself.

• New answer and resources

  • New situations, scripts and practical reads are added weekly, so you can keep coming back whenever something new happens.

How it works:

• Search

  • Type in the situation you’re dealing with, such as being left out, rude comments, making friends, family or work drama, parenting, or boundaries.

• Find your next step

  • Read relevant scripts, practical strategies, member questions and my responses.

• Ask anonymously

  • Can’t find your situation? Submit a question inside the private member lounge without publicly sharing your identity (requires a separate and new login and is included in your membership).

• Respond with more confidence

  • Leave with clearer language and a plan, instead of continuing to freeze, overthink, or second guess yourself.

Inside the member library right now:

• Go First: Your 6 week roadmap to making and finding the right friends

  • A practical plan for building friendships from scratch, putting yourself out there and creating the connection you’ve been waiting for.

• Fringe Friend No More

  • A guide to learn what to do when you’re technically included but rarely prioritized and how to stop waiting to be chosen.

• The Friendship Audit

  • A guide to evaluate reciprocity, trust, emotional safety, and which relationships deserve more or less of your energy.

• Plus more guides and 500+ scripts, real life questions, and practical reads covering friendships, family, parenting, work, boundaries, and assertiveness.

Why join when I already share advice for free?

My public content can help you recognize a pattern. Assertive YOU helps you handle it.

Inside, you get the fuller response: the words you can use, the factors to consider, the approaches that may backfire and the next step that fits the situation. Instead of saving another post and hoping you’ll remember it when something happens, you’ll have one searchable place to find support when you need it.

Created by Dr. Christie Ferrari

I’m a Johns Hopkins trained clinical psychologist, media contributor and coach who helps women, adolescents, and parents navigate friendships, exclusion, boundaries, difficult people and the conversations they don’t want to get wrong.

My work has been featured by TODAY, TIME, The Washington Post, VOGUE, and Bustle.

I created Assertive YOU because social media can help identify the problem but a short post rarely has room for the nuance, exact lanugage and next steps people need in real life.

Frequently asked questions

Is Assertive YOU therapy?

• No. Assertive YOU is an educational membership offering scripts, practical tools, guides, and generic coaching based support. It is not therapy, diagnosis, treatment, or crisis support.

Can I ask a question anonymously?

• Yes. You can create an anonymous login for the private member lounge, submit a situation, and browse questions and responses from other members.

Does my situation need to be about mean girls?

• No. Members use the platform for friendships, making friends, boundaries, exclusion, family dynamics, parenting, workplace situations and difficult conversations.

Can I cancel?

• Yes. Your membership is $9.99 per month or $79.99 (discounted rate) and you can cancel anytime.

Stop trying to find the perfect response by yourself.