What to Say When Someone Asks You to Work for Free

You’ve probably heard some version of this:

“Can I pick your brain?”

“This would be great exposure for you"

“It’s a quick favor!” 

And suddenly, someone’s asking for your time, skills, or expertise for free. Whether you’re a freelancer, creator, therapist, coach, consultant it can be uncomfortable to set boundaries when the ask seems casual. But here’s the truth, if it’s valuable enough for them to ask, it’s valuable enough to be compensated. And no, you don’t have to over-explain, defend yourself, or feel guilty for honoring your time. Here are a few graceful, professional, and firm responses you can use when someone expects free labor:

 1. “I’d love to support you! Would you like me to send over my rates for this kind of support?”

This works because it’s warm and assumes the best in the other person’s intentions. Instead of a harsh no, it gently pivots during a paid arrangement. It also invites mutual respect while keeping the tone kind and open. 

2. “I want to give that the time it deserves, but I’d need to be compensated separately for it.”

This one validates the importance of the request while clearly separating it from what’s included in your free time or current work. It sets a boundary without being defensive. If you’re already working with someone or juggling other projects, this makes it clear that this request falls outside the free zone, without sounding harsh.

3. “Happy to help, but I do charge for this type of work so I can keep doing it sustainably. Let me know if you’d like to move forward in that way.”

This works because it centers sustainability and professionalism instead of guilt. You’re not saying no to the person, you’re saying yes to healthy boundaries and longevity in your work. 

Your Final Takeaway? 

Setting boundaries like this isn’t about being cold, it’s about recognizing that:

• Your time and expertise have value.

• People respect what they invest in.

• Saying yes to unpaid work often means saying no to yourself.

And if you’ve ever felt resentful after giving away your time for free? That’s your body telling you the boundary wasn’t there.

Have a specific question? Head to the community forum and ask your question, and I’ll get back to you with tailored support. 

Best, 

Dr. C