Assertive comebacks to use when another parent puts down your child
-Was that meant as a compliment?
This response calls attention to the tone of the comment, subtly questioning whether their intent was positive or negative. It places the responsibility for the remark back on them while maintaining your composure?
-I’d rather not compare kids that way.
This response directly but politely sets a boundary, making it clear that such comparisons are not something you engage in. It prioritizes respect and shifts the conversation away from negativity and won’t engage in judgmental conversations.
-I prefer to focus on their strengths.
This response gently redirects the conversation toward positivity without engaging in or validating the negativity of the original comment. It subtly sets a boundary while reinforcing your values. It also avoids criticizing the other person directly but making it clear you won’t engage in unhelpful or critical discussions about your children. And shows that you prioritize seeing the good in children and expect others to do the same, setting the tone for healthier conversations.