3 comebacks to use when someone is judgmental.

3 comebacks to use when someone is judgmental.

“Why is that?”
-This is a good one to use because it prompts self-reflection. It forces the judgmental person to explain their reasoning and this can make them re-evaluate their own stance and potentially soften their criticism. It also questions the underlying assumption behind their judgment and this can make them realize their perspective might not be the only valid one. It also helps you gain Clarity to understand their rationale and see their point of view, even if you disagree.

“Different opinions.”
-This is a good one to use because it disarms the judgement. By acknowledging everyone has a right to their opinion, you take away the sting of their judgment. It implies their opinion is valid, but yours is equally so. It sets boundaries and mentioning “different opinions” reminds them you have your own viewpoint that deserves respect. It subtly creates a boundary and lets them know their judgment isn’t necessarily the only way to see things.

“Wait, are you saying you wouldn’t want to (insert the specific action/choice they judged)?”
-This option forces the judgmental person to consider your perspective and potentially question their own stance. It shifts the focus by taking it off of their negativity and puts it on understanding your motivations for the choice.

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Dr. C